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Don’t Let This Crush You | Make Honesty Your Only Policy

The Daily Stoic

Mon Oct 16 2023



Daily Stoic podcast:

  • Hosted by Ryan Holiday
  • Provides daily meditations inspired by ancient Stoics
  • Illustrates with stories from history, current events, and literature
  • Aims to help listeners be better at what they do
  • Weekly deeper dive episodes for a Stoic intention of the week

Memento Mori:

  • Memento mori collection available on dailystoic.com/mm
  • Reminder to live in the present moment
  • Includes memento mori medallion, signet ring, and pendant

Appreciating Life's Wonder:

  • Life is wonderful despite its mortality
  • We are sentient beings with technology, pleasures, talents, and skills
  • None of us get out of life alive
  • Born mortal and fragile with a terminal diagnosis since birth

Stoics' Approach to Death:

  • Seneca wrote about the inevitability of death but still celebrated his successes
  • Marcus Aurelius meditated on memento mori while raising a family and leading an empire
  • Awareness of death should not crush us but free us to follow our talents and enjoy life in moderation

Importance of Honesty:

  • Honesty should be the default policy rather than an exception
  • Saying "I'm going to be honest with you here" implies that honesty is not the usual approach
  • Marcus Aurelius criticized this faux attempt at honesty
  • Honesty should show through one's actions and demeanor

Cultivating Reputation for Candor:

  • Cultivate a reputation for straightforwardness and clear opinions
  • Avoid being two-faced or saying different things privately and publicly
  • Radical candor can sometimes excuse being a jerk
  • Balance between expressing unpopular opinions with moderation and justice

Moderation in Honesty:

  • Temperance required in honesty as well as other virtues
  • Being straightforward without being offensive or hurtful
  • Honesty is a line between omission and saying too much

Relating Stoicism to Workplace Behavior:

  • A workplace lawsuit involved claiming stoicism as a religion to defend offensive behavior
  • Stoicism does not justify being a jerk
  • Stoic honesty requires moderation, context, and consideration for others