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Former No.1 Pick-Up Artist: “We’re Wired to Cheat After 7 Years”, “I Was In A Relationship With My Mum”, The True Danger Of Porn: Neil Strauss

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

Sun Nov 12 2023



Cheating and monogamy:

  • Neil Strauss discusses the natural inclination to be unfaithful after a certain period in a relationship, citing an evolutionary argument by Helen Fisher that suggests humans are wired for serial monogamy with clandestine adultery.
  • He delves into personal experiences and therapy insights, highlighting how historical relationship issues and childhood traumas can impact one's behavior in adult relationships.

Masturbation and pornography:

  • The conversation addresses the potential effects of masturbation and pornography on individuals' well-being and relationships, including personal experiments conducted by Neil Strauss.
  • It explores the concept of using these activities as training or tools for self-improvement while also acknowledging potential negative impacts when used compulsively or excessively.

Mental health crisis and societal challenges:

  • The discussion touches upon the mental health crisis within modern society, emphasizing the need for mental health awareness, education, and support comparable to physical health initiatives.
  • There is an exploration of evolving societal dynamics such as increased loneliness, challenges in forming genuine connections, changes in dating dynamics due to technological advancements, and their potential impact on mental well-being.

British Airways Business Class Sale:

  • The podcast promotes the British Airways business class sale, highlighting potential savings of up to £1,000 on return flights to destinations like New York, Boston, and Chicago.
  • It emphasizes the unique features of flying business with British Airways, such as fully convertible flatbed seats, premium menus, and personalized service by experts.

Insights from Writing Kevin Hart's Book:

  • Neil Strauss shares insights from writing Kevin Hart's book. He admires Hart for his authenticity and lack of resistance in facing obstacles, which he attributes to Hart's success.
  • According to Strauss, Hart approaches challenges without procrastination or resistance, maintaining a positive attitude even in difficult situations.

Learning from Rick Rubin:

  • Neil Strauss discusses what he learned from working with Rick Rubin while writing "The Creative Act," expressing how he intended to let the work guide its own direction rather than imposing his ego onto it.
  • He emphasizes embracing an art-centered form of creation over an artist-centered approach when pursuing creative endeavors.

Challenges in Relationship Dynamics:

  • The conversation delves into personal experiences related to relationships and insecurity. It explores the impact of societal expectations and psychological factors on self-esteem and dating dynamics.
  • There is a discussion about navigating uncertainty in life following significant events like 9/11 and Hurricane Katrina, leading to reflections on existential uncertainty and preparation for unexpected crises.